How Do I Handle My Boyfriend and His “Sex Addiction”?

Question by Ari: How do I handle my boyfriend and his “sex addiction”?
Him and I have been dating 8 months. We are very close and spend alot of time together. The thing is, he has a close friend thats a girl that he communicates to on a regular basis. They have been friends for many years, and have even hooked up in the past (sex). Though I have never met her. We just know about eachother. She has a boyfriend of 4 years herself. My problem with it though is that even though my boyfriend and this girl are just “friends” I have found txt messages in the past like – “hey sexy” “I miss u alot” . The first time i found them I told my boyfriend how much it hurts me that he’s using these terms of endearment with her, like he does with me. He continues to say- “thats just how we are with eachother. Were just friends, she has a boyfriend! We just talk like that to one another and thats how its always been.” But he apologized to me and I told him I dont like that he uses “babe” and “sexy” with her. The other day though, I hadnt checked his phone or anything in a long time because I dont want it to come to that…where I cant trust him. But the other day, I read a message he sent to her saying ” sexy pic before you go to bed?” I was furious. What is going on?! I called him out again and the next day he cried to me saying how much he loves me and I mean the wrld to him and that there is nothing going on. Well, Im sure there is nothing going on because she lives so far away but what if she was here?! It bugs me that she calls my boyfriend alot and I dont know what they are always talking about but he says that lately she has been unhappy in her relationship with her bf and calls my bf for advice and feedback. I confused. My boyfriend knows how upset I was with him and told me he would feel the same. He is totally guilty. But he cried to me saying he has a problem and needs help… When I ask him why he wanted a pic of her, he couldnt really give me an answer. Just that there is nothing going on. he was embarrassed. He kinda stated something like, “i just like sex. The visual, imaginitive part, the feeling of it, the woman, just all of that..I want more. ” But he swears up and down that he hasnt ever cheated on me or had sex with anyone the whole 8 months we have been together, and I want to believe him because he’s usually always with me unless were working..Could that be the truth or could I be in denial? im lost..and need confirmation ;(

Best answer:

Answer by Yani♥ Nerdz
He should be in Sex Rehab

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