Is This a Sign of Future Abuse or Should I Pass It Off?

Question by Kitty: Is this a sign of future abuse or should I pass it off?
This is long but please read this all before answering.

I’m 21 and my fiance is 23. We’ve been through a lot, ups and downs. Last night we were at a party and my friends (mostly guys) decided to play strip beer pong. I ask my fiance if it’s ok with him and he said that it was fine and later even participates. At some point in the games, we both ended up naked at least once. Everything is fine until we are on the way home. We get in a really dumb drunk argument about the game and he pulls over and he eventually says some hurtful things which at one point i throw my purse on the floor of the car. For some reason this set off a reaction and he puts his arm around my head from behind and pulls me over on him in a rough fashion that cracks my neck a few times. At which point I freak out and yell I hate you which causes him to let go. I told him he hurt me and that it freaked me out and how would I know if he lost control again and really hurt me. He did get out on his knees and apologized and said that if he really hurt me then he doesn’t deserve me and I should leave him.

We’ve been together for 3.5 years so I pass it off as a stupid drunk miscalculation. We were fine today and he asked to make sure and I am fine, but I wanted to know some other opinions on the matter. He’s never ever hit me before or hurt me but I just don’t want him to start taking advantage of the fact that we’ve been together so long. I also don’t want to be blind to something because a lot of people never realized what happened until it’s too late.

Thanks
he didnt drink that much and that really wasnt part of the question. he drank pre mixed margarita junk
i do trust him. i was always the jerk and left him several times because i thought, hey im in college so i want to date around. and he waited for me. we’ve talked about everything from where we want to live and how many kids we want to have and careers…i dunno he’s my best friend…i literally don’t have any girl friends and guy friends hardly count because most of them want to sleep with me.i feel ok abt the whole issue i jsut wanted some outside opinions

Best answer:

Answer by dancingzorba2
Sorry, but that’s a huge red flag and it’ll only get worse :-/

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