What to Do With My Bi-Polar Estranged Wife?

Question by Tyler W: What to do with my bi-polar estranged wife?
My spouse seems not to accept that her behavior is wrong, irresponsible, sick, or unreasonable. We have a long history, and are currently separated. When she was about 22, and while I was in the Army, she had a really bad episode and we were separated. She spent our rent money and all the money we had to get my car out of the shop, cheated on me, made a flase report of spousal abuse to the military police and had me incarcerated and placed under confinement (essentailly house arrest) for a week, abandoned my children at a babysitter’s while i was out of town, forged dozens of her room-mate’s checks, disaperded for weeks on end, and a number of other things. we eventually reconciled. about 2 years later, she had another episode. She got and ost several jobs in succession, tried to commit suicide, disapeared for a week, starded doing hard drugs like meth, hrerion, oxycontin, and disapeared for almost a year. We were separaded and divorced for 5 and a half years, but got re-married eventually. That was three and a half years ago. She was getting treatment when we got re-married, but she stopped taking her medications at some point. Things were relatively fine, if not good between us, for the last couple of years. She expects me to treat her like a responsible stable person. But she is not responsible of stable. If she has access to money, she will spend it immediately and on stupid things, so I let her have her income, and I dpay all the bills and buy her things and decide how much of my income to give to her if she needs more money, or If I have extra money, I give some of it it to her. I have been worried about her for months, but she refuses to get treatment. She lies constantly, about everything. She will lie to you about something that you saw her do or heard her say five minutes ago. She sometimes even denies that she is or has ever been bipolar. She will say anything. She says that she is on two mood stabilizers and had been on several others because of anxiety, OCD, attention deficit disorder, or that she has never had any psychological problems or seena psychologist. I sometimes wonder if she really is lying, or if these things she says are actually delusions. The worst part, is that she acts like she is not manic. She convinces other peopel that her delusions or lies are reality. She makes up entire stories about me to get other peopel to do what she wants them to do, or to be her friend. Right now, she has her whole family thinking that I am physically abusing her and my children. A few weeks ago, she started acting really manic again, staying up all night , not eating ever, sleeping from maybe 9 am to about 2 PM, if at all. sometimes she just didn’t sleep. She started hanging out with all these new younger people and became unreasonable and extremely hateful toward me. Then when I tried to tell her to stop her behavior, she abruptly left me for a 20-year old man, the older brother of our 15-year old son (we are both 33). We have been separated foer three weeks now, and she called me today, beating around the bush about coming back to me. That isn’t possible right now. Not for me, anyway.

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Answer by Ms Kitty
Stay away from her…… go for custody of your kids in the divorce she doesn’t seem able to responsibly take care of them.

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