HELP I Need Advice on Handling My Drug Addict Mother for the Sake of My Young Siblings.?

Question by Bella Morte: HELP I need advice on handling my Drug Addict Mother for the sake of my young siblings.?
I’m 20 years old. Since I was 9 years old, my Mother has had a substance abuse problem (started wen she married my step-dad who has the same abuse problem). She stays up for days drunk & has an on again-off again coke problem. It was very difficult to grow up around. I lost my young teenage years because I had to take care of my younger brother & sister who are now 15 & 9. She’s a bipolar depressant and can be a very nasty person. She’s not the type of person u can have an intervention with. Every time I tried to say something to her she’d become furious & violent.

The house is usually always clean & the kids are always fed & get what they need. But her alcohol & drug problem are a constant disturbance to my siblings & myself (though i no longer live with her). When she drinks she becomes sloppy & loud. She usually has a number of drinking buddies over, blaring music, fighting & yelling. And wen she gets high she stays locked in her room for hours & wont come out for anything (my little sister will be up wondering around the house past midnight cuz there was no parent around to tell her to get in bed, the kids will knock at the door & say there hungry and my Mom will say she’ll be right out but never does).

When I was 15 I confided in a Guidance Counselor about my Mother’s behavior. That resulted in D.S.S coming to our house. My Mom made sure the house was clean & fine the day before but she started drinking a little bit toward the night with a friend. She got carried away and before u knew it, it was the next day & the D.S.S. worker was knocking on the door. My Mother was passed out cold & would not wake up even with the social worker standing in the doorway. Before i knew it the police and even fire department were everywhere and the social worker took all three of us away without a second guess.

My Mom had to go through drug testing and shit to get us back. When she finally got us back, she was clean but became very hateful towards me& still to this day calls me a rat & a snitch. We finally started to get along toward the end of 2007. She still got drunk time to time but only once or twice a week. I was just glad she stopped doing the drugs. But starting this year she slowly started doing them again & has gotten worse & worse. My younger siblings know what she’s doing & call me upset all the time. Since I moved out in July, she’s been getting high almost every night & unimaginably drunk. I stopped visiting her for a month now because it sickened me to see her like that. I’m 5 months pregnant, I want her to stop NOW before its too late. I dont want my baby to be born in April & have a woman like that for a Grandmother. Plus my poor siblings. She through out my little brother 4 days ago because she was raging drunk & was bitching about him being in the shower too long. He’s been staying with me. Now my 9 year old sister is there alone.

I feel like only thing i can do is call D.S.S. again. But if i do they’ll take my little sister away. Last time they took all of us away, my brother & me were sent to live with my Dad. But my sister was sent somewhere else bcuz she has a different Dad. She had a good home last time, but i cant take the chance that she’ll be as fortunate again.

If i call Social Services is there a way they can make her do drug testing but still have my sister unless she doesn’t sober up? Or if calling them even though they’ll take my sister, is there a way I can take her? Or is there another way without calling D.S.S.?

She’s never listened to me before. She even beat me really bad when I was 16 (after she got us back) bcuz I finally said something about my frustrations with her drinking. She threw me out. I’m afraid if i try now even though im older, that she’ll attack me, pregnant or not. And she told me that if I “rat” on her to anyone again, she’ll disown me. What do I do? HELP!

Best answer:

Answer by O U812
gotta get social service or the cops involved

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