My Husband Is an Alcoholic and a Drug Addict and Refusing to Get Help…?
Question by redhead27: My husband is an alcoholic and a drug addict and refusing to get help…?
We were in couples counseling, our counselor told us both to cut out the alcohol and I did and have for 2 weeks. Its him, he has continued to drink every night and stopped going to counseling. I have asked him not to bring alcohol home because I do not want to be tempted but he does not care, stating he can handle his liquor and do whatever he wants. I continued the counseling on my own and have begun to take care of myself and set boundaries. He is never home now, he comes home around 5AM drunk and on drugs and tells me he hates me and I am trying to control him and that he doesnt need counseling but I am the one that needs help. I have set my boundary here, if he does not come to counseling next week then I am prepared to divorce. My counselor said, that if he comes next week he will be required to go to rehab otherwise he cannot continue counseling. He said that it is up to me when to call quits on this marriage, and the next step if he does not accept rehab is intervention. I am just so scared and confused and so hurt… my strength and energy to keep trying to help is diminished. I have contacted some of his family to tell them to encourage him to get help and if they allow his addiction or ignore it then they are only enabling him to continue. All his friends drink/use drugs with him also, so they are not a support right now. I am just so scared… anyone else been through this? Please give me any advice or support or your own story…anything helps at this point.
No kids (thankfully)… just a puppy that he has neglected
I am not a loser… I am married… and I took my marriage vows seriously and have done all that I can to try to help him. As I said.. I plan to leave and divorce if he does not accept rehab or attend counseling next week… whats with the mean comment anyway-no need for that.. thanks.
Actually I am not a drug addict, and I drank 1-2 beers after work. I don’t know if I had a problem, but I cut it out of my life with no problem and I don’t care about alcohol. Its that when he drinks he goes out all night and also does drugs…
Thanks hotmama… its nice to read someone writing something realistic here instead of calling me a loser or something.
dadgonenew… thanks for your input, its nice to hear a realistic answer from someone who knows…
Best answer:
Answer by Stormridersage
You may have to leave him. As a recovered alcoholic for almost 15 yrs I have learned that sometimes a drunk has to lose everything but his/her breathing in order for them to become willing to change.Ask yourself how important your life, happiness and sobriety are and you may make the right decision to live and let him go.
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