Can’t Be Friends With You Because Your Gay?
Question by J J: Can’t be friends with you because your gay?
I thought this person was my best friend (only friend really), I’m 9 years older then him (lets say he is 25 & Im 34 so you can think about this better). He say’s he is straight but in actuallity he is ‘bi’ (he’s had sex with more gay guys then I have) but he has girl friends sometimes too.
He lived with me for about 4yrs off and on, usually for free or $ 150.00 a month (all bill paid and free washer/dryer/food/other). Those 4yrs turns out to be almost 3yrs living with me.
He would tell me stories about how his dad used him as a punching bag, how his mother abandon him when he was a teenager, how his stepbrother doesn’t like him, all in all kinda a sad story. How he lived with a biracial couple that took him when he was a teen. How the biracial couple treated him like a ‘son’ (the guy was a truck driver and a meth addict but how much they hated gay people and how the wife would cheat on him while he was on the road as a truck driver).
Anyway my ‘ex’ friend I guess has always been broke and never really could read/spell much. I never let anyone talk bad about him not even once, hey we even went to jail together once because of people talking bad things about us. One thing lead to another and I told him I loved him and he said he loved me (over two years ago). He didn’t cheat on me and I didn’t cheat on him. He stayed in the closet and that was OK with me.
Well we got into a car wreck a few months back, he got some settlement money, bought him a car and said he was leaving, he was returning to the couple he had known before and he couldn’t see me any more because they wouldn’t like him anymore if they knew about me. He said plus your gay and wouldn’t be able to hid it and your old too.
He bought a phone (didn’t give me his number) and off he went, someone gave me his number and I called, he won’t answer when I call and he won’t answer any of his emails either. Thing is, I KNOW he had planned this for months ahead of time because he had told his family and friends not to email him anymore and that he would be leaving.
What should I do? Did he leave because I’m gay, I’m a old, because he was scared, because he was sick of me, or something else? I’m really REALLY confused because I don’t have any friends, NONE – ZERO – NADA. My str8 friends stopped talking to me because I’m gay years ago and the few gay people I know stopped talking to me years ago because of a prior relationship where I threaten to kick butt because I was jealous they might try to take ‘my person’ (the gay guys took him anyway eventuallyth use of drugs).
WHAT ARE YOUR OPINIONS? I’d like to know, maybe it will help me become a better person or help me deal with this pain I have.
Best answer:
Answer by concerned
well it seems like hes unsure of himself and doesnt know who he is as a person yet soo id just let it go obviously he doesnt want to have any communitcations with you and wants to move on in his life so you should try it too
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