SERIOUS QUESTION! PLEASE ANSWER?
Question by At yur service: SERIOUS QUESTION! PLEASE ANSWER?
Um, my dad’s quite the failure alright. Yesterday, I found out the truth about him through my mom.
Last month, my dad was talking to me about making right decisions and seeing where wrong decisions get you. So he ended up telling me that when he was younger, he sold drugs and started at the age of 14, that’s my age. He sold crack, cocaine, but he didn’t take any, he just sold it, neither did my mom, she said she’d never ever risk her life over something as stupid as drugs.
Well, Yesterday, I asked my mom why my dad left us when I was younger, and I told her that I wanted the truth. I told her that I knew he sold drugs and she said that’s what she’s been trying to avoid telling me. She told me that my father was the biggest drug dealer in columbia. He’d come to her house with tens of thousands of dollars every week. He’d walk around with as much as $ 5,000 in his pocket…and when his mom (now my grandmother) checked his pants, she’d steal the money.
She told me, people were after him and he always used to carry a gun. There were often days my dad was short from death..dunno what she meant by that. He was very rich back then, but he gambled all his money away so… One day, the police caught onto him and his best friend whom he’d been selling with. He snitched on his best friend so he wouldn’t get in trouble, therefore, his buddy went to jail. She said that my dad bought the word “snitch” over to Columbia.
She said he ended up moving to Florida for his own good so he wouldn’t go to jail or even get killed for snitching, and I was like, so that’s why he left, and she said yeah. When his buddy got out of jail, he’s forgiven my father for snitching on him and my dad moved back, so that’s when I was about 9..that’s the first time I ever saw my dad! That Christmas, I remember it like it was yesterday..best Christmas ever! From there on, he was in my life.
Him and my mom got along just fine, but it took some time for me to get comfortable with him, because even though he was my dad, I didn’t know him like that, and I still don’t. Even though he says I can talk to him about anything, I really can’t because…I’m just not at that stage yet..sounds weird doesn’t it.
He has to be the biggest failure I know now. He dropped out of high school to obtain his GED and he’s 37 just now going to college. My dad had a girlfriend whom my older half brother was born by. She’s the one who introduced him to the life of drugs. He wasn’t there for his other son either and my brothers mother used to say fucked up stuff to him about our dad. My bro used to make good grades, he was a good kid…A’s and B’s all the way up till high school. He kept getting expelled and sent to alternative schools, he never made it to college, he dropped out. I think what happened was that he started hanging out with bad kids, doing bad things like drugs, and women. I love my brother, but I don’t like him at all…He’s fucked up. I wish he would get a life. He’s disrespectful to grown ups..when I say disrespectful, he beats up his mother, and he beats on his dad, he cusses out the rest of us…and what not.
He’s a homeless fuck now, living on the streets, he got kicked out of everybody else’s house because he was disrespectful and was slack. My dad’s pretty much the only one who keeps letting him crawl back. He comes and goes as he pleases. For instance, when I spend the night at my dad’s house, he comes and goes, like he’ll leave out and come back in, all you hear is the door opening and closing…and sometimes he’ll be gone until 3 or 4 am smelling like weed…doesn’t even take a shower, just plumps himself on the couch and goes to sleep. He got this girl pregnant and she just had the bastard 2 weeks ago. How the fuck is he supposed to pay for diapers and he doesn’t even have a job. I’m telling you, she’s going to end up putting him on child support and he’s going to end up in jail because he can’t afford it…that’s not even half of his life’s story.
But anyways. My dad lived with his mom for a long time, he moved out because of conflict and lies that my brother caused between them…he met this girl and I know he’s using her for her money…she must love him a lot because she pays everything. Everything is in her name. Isn’t it supposed to be the other way around? Isn’t the man supposed to take care of the woman..to me, that’s just plain old pitiful. My dad, all he does is go to work and play online poker, nothing else
My dad doesn’t do anything for me. He used to pay my mom $ 200 a month and now he doesn’t pay her anything for me..I keep telling her to put him on child support but she won’t do it, what is she..afraid? As everybody who’s went to school knows, we need supplies! My mom asked him to go half on school supplies, this ass hole cusses my mom out…WTF? I couldn’t believe what I’d heard. My mom doesn’t talk to him anymore now. He doesn’t call me to talk or anything, like…on the weekend, instead of him calling
me and saying, hey, wanna come over and hang..I have to call him and be like. Can I please come over and hang out..sometimes he’ll say no because he doesn’t feel like it. My grandma on my mom’s side and my dad used to pick me up on the weekdays to take me to school. For a minute, my dad didn’t have any stickers on his car, so he couldn’t drive (how did he get to work everyday?). So, one day, I was at his house, and I noticed he had his stickers on now. I was like…Oh, so you have stickers on your car now?
He’s like yeah..he didn’t even bother to ask if my 60 year old grandmother needed help driving across town to pick me up and take me to school at 6:00 in the morning. Geez, what a man right? Right?
There was a couple of days I had to miss school, because my grandma couldn’t make it, and I would have all day detention if I went. I told him that I had detention and he still didn’t bother to take me to school..like..hey, well maybe I can help her out. His girlfriend, the one who’s p
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Best answer:
Answer by creed
the only person that knows what was going on in your dad’s head throughout his life is your dad;; everyone else involved with his life has perceptions, memories, some true, some elaborated;; IF you want to delve further into this “story”, I would research what your mom is saying, ask your grandmother;; maybe quit rushing to judgement about your dad, cuz, for the simple fact:: ask your mom to tell you about yesterday..she may have a different “story” than you would about yesterday, hope ya get my drift…but I wouldn’t judge someone solely on one other person’s perceptions, she MAY be wrong here & there…
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