How Do People in Dysfunctional Families Escape Them?

Question by mercymeenursey: How do people in dysfunctional families escape them?
My family always calls on me when there is a serious problem that no one can solve. Impossible situations that include domestic violence, drug abuse, and some actual life threatening issues that demand immediate intervention.

Like a sister who lives out of town and is self destructive. A brother whose life is being threatened by his wife. A father that is abusive to a mother.
I am usually able, through drastic measures including notifiying law enforcement, paramedics, or administering emergency medical aid myself to resolve many crisis and chaos that occur.
But I am wiped out. One brother is constantly needing money.
I just want to escape.

Best answer:

Answer by Lolita4653
By finding a mentor outside of their families & becomg more like them. It’s kind of like what would jesus do except “what would _____ be like?” for example…shocked? Like why are the problems even happening? Tell them straight up what they need to do to change. If one guy is constantly needing money, don’t give him any. Tell him to get a job or tell him to just don’t spend money he doesn’t have. Or tell him how to save money. He needs to get independent.

If the father is abusive to the mother, tell her she’s worth more than that and she needs to get out of that. For her to press charges or seek help or whatever.

Cycles can be broken only when something else gets in the way from it happening again.

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