The Biggest Question EVER?
Question by John Quinlan: The biggest question EVER?
Let me start you off with a small intro,
My gf and I have been together for 5 years, today (4/6/09). We have a 13 month old son together, and we’ve been on the rocks for a while.
As of this January she contacted an old friend who she was close to. This ‘old friend’ had actually never met her, he lives in Arizona, on the reservation in Yuba City (his wife is in jail from narc. distribution, he has no job, no car, no net, and 3 kids). My gf and this douche bag had a close friendship when she was younger via the internet/phone. (Spare me the bullshit, I hate writing this as much as you hate reading it).
Yet the issue evolved into a catastrophe when my gf and I decided to get engaged last year (Oct. ’08), we had the location planned, the rings bought, the dress picked out, etc.
Everything was going well until financial difficulties set us back, and we postponed the wedding for a year. Within thirty days of the event being cancelled, she writes a letter to the alleged “douch bag’s” father; asking if she could contact his son, and asking how and where he is..
That letter got a response from the alleged douche bag, and he starts talking with her again. Within a week they proclaim their love for each other, and he begins transferring her money. It devolves into more disarray when I find out that she has a private cell phone for him, and his kids talk to her frequently..
– – – – – This all while she and I have our son involved in our daily lives, we live together, and we’re still engaged/partially engaged.. – – – – –
This situation melted completely down after my son’s first birthday in February ’09, and the final result was my moving out. Since moving out, she’s continued talking to this guy “as a friend”, and we’ve tried to patch up our disastrous issue for our son, for us, and for the bettering of us.
Since March began the douche bag, get this, has actually checked himself into a rehab clinic for his alcohol abuse.. during which he randomly calls my gf. Since the last convo (2 weeks ago) he hasn’t called, I think we’re okay, and then…
Fast forward to this morning:
6 A.M. – I awake to, guess who, calling her MAIN cell phone.
6:10 A.M. – I pack up, and leave
6:11 A.M. – She has no rebuttal, no comeback, only a disillusioned look as to wonder “why did he call me at 6 AM?”
9:00 A.M. – I’m writing this asking a simple question:
What do you do, do you stay and try to make things last (for your child, for yourself, for the years that were good)- or do you throw it all away and rebuild?
Best answer:
Answer by MJ Vashti
How could she do such a thing to a man with such a great track of time!
She apparently has lost alot of respect for your son at least getting another man involved, let alone fucking with your head by talking to him through a private cell. I would have taken the kid with you, so it’d be easier for both of you to make the important decision since it looks like only you care about the kid while she cares about secrecy for her own confidence.
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