Question Divorcing Narcissist Husband?
Question by Maddy Kayyy: Question divorcing narcissist husband?
Okay throughout our whole 3 years of marriage I have been abused verbal and physical. In front of my child who is now 16 months old. Even when I was pregnant he never laid his hand on me then but almost…
Anyways if you know anything about a narcissist they brainwash you, and me as a victim gets “addicted” to him… So I always called him and always wanted to know where he was what he was doing… (he also had been trying to get ahold of his ex, 8 days after our wedding) anyways all this time when he was doing so, he would make me believe I was crazy, or I caused him to get that angry, I shouldn’t have said this to get him to get physical… Yeah I know …
Anywho he never wanted to spend money on me or his daughter. He went through 8 cars our whole marriage (3years) not once has she ever had insurance… Or cool new toys, same with me I didn’t have anything he bought me a 98 jeep… While he had all those cars that were at least 10k up… He was so selfish! But he didn’t think anything of it, “cars” was his hobby and if I wanted one to get a job and pay For our daughters day care and do it, since he pays bills…. This man makes over 120,000 a year. Okay and were living in a crappy apartment, I have a crappy wedding ring, his daughter has no health insurance, out grown all her winter clothes, 1 pair of shoes.. and here he is with a 30k truck put 11k down on it. Bought $ 300 raido for it. And when I go grocery shopping every week I spend $ 140 maybe. Usually less. And I buy cheap non brand name food and he still tells me I need to bargain shop. When I ask for money because I’m not on the account, he gives me $ 40 and tells me to make it last… Sometimes im lucky to get a dollar! He has this job that travels and he got all his friends this job making alot of money (typical narcissist) so he’s around them all day. Well here I am at home all alone in a strange area not wanting to go out because I don’t know the area, and because I have no money. He works Monday-Saturday 7am-7pm ? Sometimes later! His only free day was Sunday’s he spent that day golfing with his friends spending $ 80 a week and bought new golf clubs… Okay and never wanted to compromise going everyother Sunday and taking me and our daughter to the park or something. He said no. It’s his day! He doesn’t have to work all the hours he does he has “leads” and the time he has to be there is like 5 pm he will still wake up and go to the office with his friends (I worked there as an assistant for awhile) sometimes he would come home drunk! And verbally abuse me calling me crazy physco he needs space I’m humiliating myself by being mad…. He got everyone to believe this as well! One night he got mad and shook me and made my hand jam in my mouth and my gem hit my tooth and came off sowalled it. He started a fight with me that night about something I did and left! He didn’t come hone all night!!! Then later down the line I found out he was hiding cocaine from me!! And got mad because I was suspecting and tricked him into amiting and treatned me into doing it! My daughter was in the other room !!! Anyways he started doing it not only when he was drinking but now everyday at work to get a “boost” ??
On top of all this, my ex bestfriend who is a whore got me fired from the job working with him, and works up there… There would be days where he had “paper work” to complete because the past days I have been making him cone home at 6 (not!). This girl is known to sleep with what is not hers . Them two would be there all day alone! And he blamed everything on me, making myself seem crazy and everyone around him! Like he had a reason to call me names and scream at me and physical abuse me!!!
Well now I got out! Thank god and it’s been 2 weeks… I have found pictures on the Internet with him partying not wearing wedding ring, wearing new clothes, and a pic of what looks like to be him and my ex best friend.
He was doing all this when I decided to leave he sent me 1000 miles with all that I can pack in my jeep with our 16month old baby, $ 300 and half a tank of gas ( he used my car minutes before he knew I was leaving) he never called to see if we made itt or anything! Nor sent us any more than what he gave us in money for a week and two days and I see these pictures….!!!!
So I also recently found out that he only claimed $ 250.00 on his taxes and we got back $ 1,000 because of our daughter (that’s the money he gave us to live for awhile) and he made well over 120,000 !!! That could get me in trouble!!! So I have to amend myself from that.
So I spoke to an attorney she wants me not to talk to him. And nit to our daughter or let him take her, she said he’s a narcissist physcopath.. And wait til I have custody papers that gas supervised visitaion! All the drugs abuse and no telling around her I completely agree… But he was good with h
And now I cave in letting him speak to our daughter and he called at 4 pm they talked for 3min (she’s a baby can’t say many words he. Hung up) so then called at 11:30 I didn’t answer and kept calling he was texting me saying I can’t believe your doing this I can’t think straight not knowing where she is or how she was… Like 10 messages until 6am including a picture of him crying!!! WTF !! Now I find out he’s on his way to Vegas, with his friends and maybe that girl! And he was supposed to be served divorce papers! (he didn’t know)
But omg! I am so done with him controling me! Should I not let him speak to her until I get the papers??? I’m so lost
Best answer:
Answer by auftrit
Whew……..that’s a lot of reading.
Yeah, divorce his azz.
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