Q&A: What to Do About This Tricky Situation?
Question by ?: What to do about this tricky situation?
I’m trying to write this fast so sorry for any errors.
Hi, I’m a mother of 3. And I have a tricky situation going on in my household. I want to say about 7 months ago one of my husbands football players moved in with us. His name is Brandon and the reason he moved in is because his mother left him in December 2008 because she was a “heroin addict” and she just abandon him, he had been living alone in his house with my electricity and living off fast food. He passed out during a practice and that’s when my husband found out about his situation. He has no other family and we couldn’t just let him fend for himself anymore.
So in late March he moved in with my family. We now have legal guardianship of him until he is 18 but we did not adopt him. By the way he is 16. I also three children of my own. Two girls 18 and 16 and a 7 year old son.
Brandon is the greatest kid you could ever want. He’s getting recruited for big time colleges for football ( which my husband talks about everyday) and most importantly he is holding down a 4.14 which is most important to me. He is a hard worker. He volunteers to do chores and he’s great with my 7 year old son and he is like everything you would want in a kid. And my family and I love him.
But I walked in my house two days ago and saw Brandon and my sixteen year old daughter Mac were making out. I was shocked and caught off guard. I tried to handle it calmly. So I talked to both of them separately and calmly and they admitted to me that they had been having a secret relationship since Brandon moved in. Then they told me that they were so scared to tell my husband and myself because they didn’t know if we going to break them up. Then they beg us to let them stay together. And we said they could continue dating. I mean they’ve been dating for 7 months if we wanted to stop the relationship we couldn’t all hell would break loose.
Its only been two days since they told us and now I caught them kissing/making out 4 times 3 outside the house and one time in the house. I can’t believe that didn’t figure it out, the way they look at each other I should have known. And they should have told us. I’m so mad at them and my 18 year old senior daughter who is supposed to be a leader just lied to me for 7 months.
What should my husband I do? We starting to draw up some rules but as you tell this a tough situation. What would you do? What should we do?
Brandon or my daughter aren’t moving or leaving my household so please don’t recommend that.
Best answer:
Answer by SinDelle Morte
Then your daughter is going to get pregnant. You say if you wanted to stop the relationship you couldn’t, so that tells me what kind of parent you are. This is going on in your house. You absolutely COULD stop it if you wanted to. You obviously don’t. But you will hate yourself if you allow your daughter to ruin her life by becoming pregnant before she is ready.
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