My Boyfriend Will Just Not Give Up Drugs and He Continuese to Lie About It, What Do I Do?
Question by Skye: My boyfriend will just not give up drugs and he continuese to lie about it, what do I do?
My boyfriend and I are both drug addicts. I’m in recovery and have been clean for some time. He, on the otherhand, continues to use. Our drug of choice is Heroin. He uses for a few weeks and then gets clean for a week and then uses for a couple of months and gets clean for a while. It’s an endless cycle. He thinks he can just use “once in a while” too! I’m not dumb. I’m an addict too. He finally got a job 2 weeks ago. He SWORE that he wouldn’t get high when got his first paycheck. He even went through a week of being sick for this job and not using. The first Friday he gets paid, he calls and says he is just “hanging out” with his friend (BTW, the friend is a junkie) and swears he isn’t using. Well, today he confessed he got high that Friday which was last week. He gets paid again tomorrow and I’m ready to give him an ultimatum! I know he’s planning on getting high the second he gets paid. What do I do? I don’t want to lose him but I’m going to lose him anyways if he continues to use ’cause he’ll either die of an overdose or end up in jail or prison, right? WHAT SHOULD I TELL HIM? Please don’t just say “dump the loser”. It’s not that easy. We’ve been together 8 years. We don’t live together right now so I can’t moniter his every move. He’s living with his parents and they know about his addiction. His Mom searched his room today while he was at work and found two syringes. He’s pissed and feels like they had not right looking for his room. I think they do. Their granddaughter is one and stays in that house a lot (their daughter’s daughter). What if she found one of those needles? Sometimes I just feel he needs to get arrested to learn his lesson. He’s never been to jail more than a night. Nothing else seems to work. My pleading and crying are in vain. Thank you for reading this and for any advice that may help me. I’m miserable.
Best answer:
Answer by art_cjohnson
confront him then send him to rehab
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