It’s All Going Down Hill?
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We have been through a lot. He is having a tough time in life, his parents divorce still hurts him, hes not doing well in school ( he is a sr), he lost his job due to being laid off, and he had a drug problem. I miss the way our relationship used to be. It used to be fun, and loving. I do love him, more than anything, but I’m wondering if love is enough to keep us together.
He stopped smoking weed for me. I didn’t like it, and he knew it was something he needed to stop, to be a better person. But lately he has been pretty depressed about loosing his job. He has no money. He is still in high school, and has to go to night school too, which is why he isn’t trying to find another job. Whenever we hang out.. all we do is sit around and watch tv, or have sex. I’m tired of our relationship being like this. I try to make him go out and do things, like this weekend we went ice skating, but he feels bad because he can’t pay for it. It is really effecting our relationship. He hates living with his mom, and just hates the fact that he has to go to school ALL day (7am -2:30, then 5-9) I want to be there for him, and try to encourage him that he only has 1 month left of school, but I feel like, the relationship is all about him. I don’t feel like he is being as sweet and caring. & I feel like he is taking me for grated. I do take him out to eat every once in a while, and do nice things for him, but lately I feel like i am being used. He will call me and ask me to come hang out with him, and asks me to pick him some cigs on my way. I feel like he expects me to do these things for him.
Also, he doesn’t have a car, so when we do do things, I have to drive to get him, I have to drive to wherever we are going, and I have to drive him home. It’s a lot on me, and he doesn’t realize.
I have tried to talk to him about the way I feel, but it just turns into a huge arguement.
How do I save my relationship? Please help.