If Someone Used to Use Meth 11 Years Ago Goes Through a Bad Time in Life Would They Likely Start Again?

Question by Ally: If someone used to use meth 11 years ago goes through a bad time in life would they likely start again?
My ex and I were together for 11 years. When we first got together he was 23 and was partying a lot. He said he used meth recreationally but quit when he met me because I wasn’t okay with that. Well, 2 years ago he ended up leaving me because our relationship had gotten rocky and he met a much younger coworker he was interested in. He remained involved with our son for about a year and a half, although it was mainly only when I would call to ask him to babysit while I worked. Otherwise he would choose a different fun recreational activity to do.

Things didn’t work out with that girl he left me for. She ended up staying with her fiance, got pregnant a couple of months after he left me (by her fiance) and stopped contacting him. He ended up partying a lot, was late to work a bunch and about 9 months ago was fired from his car sales job where he worked for 8 years. He was denied unemployment because they fired him for cause.

Over the summer before he cut off all contact he agreed to watch our son while I worked because he didn’t have a job and said he wanted to help out. He would be late every day (hours late) or wouldn’t show up at all. Then he started canceling visits and stopped coming around altogether.

He now hasn’t seen or talked to our 4 year old son for over 6 months. I filed for child support 2 months ago and he won’t respond to their calls or papers. I sent him a message on facebook requesting property back that is at the residence we used to share (photo albums) and he won’t respond.

I heard from a friend of his that he was arrested and released for marijuana sales and possession a month ago. But I heard that he had a birthday party (his 35th) right after and seemed to be living it up, partying.

I’m shocked at what’s happened. I never thought he would drop our son. I never thought after 12 years with someone you could feel like they’re a complete stranger. I know he has a young girlfriend, but I think he’d miss his son, and I think he was seeing her for a while before he cut off contact, so I don’t think it’s that.

I wonder if him being late and acting so irresponsible, etc. could be the result of him starting to use drugs (harder drugs) again?

Best answer:

Answer by insurancelady82
Of course he’s using again. If not Meth, then something just as hard. No one truly uses Meth “recreationally” and no one really quits Meth w/o treatment. Since you have a child with him, you should be able to contact the courts, and push for a warrant since he’s in arrears for support. Instead of contacting his friends, contact his family. They are aunts/uncles, and grandparents. If you tell them why you are concerned, and that it’s for the well being of your son, I bet they’d help.

Good Luck, and I hope he goes into rehab so that he can see what’s really wrong.

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