I Think We’re Getting Divorced… What to Do?

Question by mommalock: I think we’re getting divorced… what to do?
My husband of 4 years and I are at a breaking point… we are headed for divorce and I am heartbroken. Our life is no where near what we pictured but I promised for better or worse so I have been fighting for this marriage for over a year. We have been to marriage and individul counseling, joined couples bible studies and read countless books on communication. We have to young babies and have tried hard to make it work for their sake as well as ours. I love him, I really do, but he says he is not “in love” with me and thinks he married me because he was “in lust” with me. He slept with another women about two years ago and told me the next weekend, we then went immediately to marriage counseling which brought out a “sex addiction,” he has. He then went to individual counseling which he told me helped him learn self-control. Well, a week ago he tells me he still wants to be able to sleep with other women and that I could do the same with other men… I entertained the idea of swinging because I really will do what it takes to make our marriage last and I thought that maybe it could be fun… however I realized, I do not want this, I cannot share my most intimate bond with my husband with other people, I didn’t even sleep around when I was single, why would I do it married?? I told him this and also explained that I don’t want to spend the rest of my life competing with every last “f*ck” he had… he pretty much gave me an ultimatum, either I let it happen or we are over… granted there are many other issues in our relationship, communication for example. So, I told him I was sorry but I didn’t know what else to say… he left and now we are getting divorced…. advice? knowledge? comfort? anything? i am sick with sadness and pain in my heart, i am embarrassed that i am 25 and already not good enough for my husband… i don’t know what to do or where to turn right now…

Best answer:

Answer by Radders
Good riddance – he’s not good enough for you!

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