I Just Found Out That My Brother Has Been Smoking Pot for 2 Years. We’re Really Close and I Never Knew.?

Question by aural13: I just found out that my brother has been smoking pot for 2 years. We’re really close and I never knew.?
I just finished dinner and I’m really confused right now.
My mom, dad, brother and me were just eating like normal and randomly my dad says “I’m concerned about your drug abuse”
background information, I’m really close to my brother, we are like best friends and never have I ever imagined that he did drugs. I really had no idea and was really confused when my dad said that. From that minute on it was like i was invisible, my family didn’t acknowledge me at all for the rest of dinner they just continued there conversation. Any way, so my dad goes “I think that your use of drugs is affecting your grades and school attendance” and my brother says “I already got into college, I don’t care about school. I have been smoking pot for 2 years now and you guys (my parents) never said anything or even realized. The way you say “abuse” is stupid because I only smoke one or twice a week. You guys (my parents) just noticed and when you bring it up so awkwardly and randomly” I’m really hurt my all of this, it happened so fast and abruptly that I didn’t see it coming and it shocked me and hurt me really bad. I’m crying because my brother acts like it’s normal and it doesn’t matter and continues talking to me like we’re still close but now I can’t trust him and feel like he’s a way different person. I’m also really close to my mom so all this going on behind my back is weird. I don’t like my dad, he always has his opinion on things but he doesn’t tell me or my brother anything he just tells my mom when there alone in there room, and then my mom try’s to tell us how he feels so we can fix it and make it better between us. So now I feel like my mom and dad have known about this, but haven’t been responsible and confronted my brother. and he has been sneaking around and hiding this for so long.
I just need someone to read this and tell me how I should feel.
I don’t know whether I want to talk to my mom or brother about this. I don’t know how I feel, and I don’t know whether I should tell my best friend. We tell each other everything we both have siblings older than us, I know that she would understand but I don’t want her to feel as weird and mad at my brother as I do right now, because she considers him like a brother too.
please help me!

Best answer:

Answer by ♪♫♪♫♪♫
You should feel upset, the fact that your brother is doing drugs is up setting, but don’t tell your best friends, sometimes families need to have serects.

Next to deal with this is to do nothing, unless your brother is really in danger or hurting himself then he should just be lefty alone

if you really want to help him hen tell him how you feel and say it upsettd u that he does this

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