I Have a Little Cousin I Am Really Really Worried About Someone and I Need Some Advice……please?
Question by Finally Going Insane 🙂: i have a little cousin i am really really worried about someone and i need some advice……please?
i have a little cousin, whom is about 13 years old……she used “myspace” to actually write out her suicide note……
now i know, this little girl, has been to 48 different states, each one of her brothers and sisters was born in a different state. her oldest brother was born in California, her older sister was born in Illinois, and she was born in Flordia….her dad is a MAJOR meth head, and her mom WAS then she moved away from him, and now her mom is an ALCOHALIC…..I CANT STAND MY AUNT FOR PUTTING MY LITTLE COUSINS THROUGH THIS S**T!!!! My little cousin that i am talking about (let me call her RJ) her older sister (whom is 17) has a baby that will be one year in June (who she dont take care of and puts it on RJ which, made her quit school and take care of a kid that aint hers) and she has a older brother, (whom is 18 and has a baby boy that he takes care of and loves TO DEATH) has been a GODSEND to me……Outta all the things that boy has been through, he has stood strong….
and he has turned out SO good…..but the main concern i have is that RJ’s older sister and their mother got into a fight and they were hitting and screaming and yelling at each other…and RJ just couldnt take it anymore….being 13 she shouldnt have to be going through this shit, and i tell her over and over again that we (otherthan her sister and mother) are here to talk to her. and she is STILL having problems. I feel the need that if this was anyother family, i would be contacting child services for everything that her mother has done to them. but since it is my family, i am in a conflicted situation. do i call them, and tell them whats going on? or do i just sit back and let it ride on its own 🙁
i am 22 years old. i am tring to get my life situated right now cause of the mistakes i made when i was younger. and taking her in is NOT an option right now….i am in the process of buying a lot and putting a house on it…..and once i get it approved and up, she is more than welcome to come up here…and if i have to home school her to get her to go to school, i will do that. she and her brother have both been told, that once this house goes up, i will be glad to take them in. RJ looks up to me, and her older brother does to…and i just, i dont know what to do for the time being…….
its probley not for another year, cause i have to go through the damn financing….and she will only be 14….and she lives about 128miles away from me 🙁 when she moved from her dad’s unfortunatly she moved from me……my fiance actually lives down there in a house of his own, and we are discussin him moving in with her until we get our house where i live up and ready…but the one thing he wont put up with is her not going to school….and yeah, i would be willing to put her school work before myself….and anything i have to…and her brother and other sister are more than welcome to come and stay with me…but being 22 and going to have 3 teenagers and 2 infants in the house, and TTC for me, i might just have to put me on hold to raise them…..
Best answer:
Answer by WONDERER
I think that the family you have described is horrible. How can anyone live like that?
If you parents agree, why not suggest that you take your cousin to live with you. Then you can keep her from the degrading behaviour with which she is surrounded. It would be horrible if she grew up to accept that this kind of life was “normal” and that children should be brought into the world with no prospect of a proper upbringing.
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