How to Fight With Dark & Scary Face of Life?

Question by Vira: How to fight with dark & scary face of life?
since i understood the life, i felt this is the most painful thing i have. even after that tried lot to cope, to correct, to make myself strong but failed.
nothing is normal here. since last 10 years i was dying every day, 2 times a serious suicidal attempt & 3 times psycho treatment. 10 years back i was competitive enough, but then i fell in love, felt cheated & then first attempt because i found that nothing left in my life & nothing can be done. ya its true, still i realize that after that i lost everything my career , my intelligence, my happiness. i was regretting all the time for failed attempt. then continued to survive. after 3-4 year went for the treatment, medicine can calm the mind but cant bring the happiness, it happened. later on i tried to make friends, i felt somewhat happy but again i felt that people used me for their own reason , no friends in real. every buddy needs a happy guy for friendship.when i was alone and sad no body was with me except the pain of my first love. then the 2nd attempt , was critical but again saved. i got job placement , but in the wrong place, no option but to complete one year.after completion i left the job, as the boss was treating us like labor. got married this year, but again i am feeling that i lost, i dint have normal married life too. she is not cooperative. i don’t have job now nor the successful life. all the time i feel that my first thought before my first attempt was quite true. i cant do any thing in my life & nothing is left here. really painful. currently i am not thinking of any other attempt , i can’t. but why everything went wrong since last ten years. i was the intelligent one but my educational background doesn’t support cos requirements. i am good to everyone, but no one even my wife doesn’t feel about my pain. no positive side of life….how much should i wait, i am tired of living .
questia-Thanks bt i’ve already discussed with my wife. She starts crying fr things without any strong reasons. Instead of helping me out she herself is creating new problems & this make me more hopeless. She is nt even helping me to have, u know, a normal married life. I care, i love her bt at times she is not normal as shud be.

For bare needs there is no need to live. Its a animal life. Emotions are part of life and i am not a priest to live without desire.

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Answer by questia
This is happening because of your emotional nature, because of which you take life as equal to emotional span of time, and the external world is not matching your views and notions. I think you have this problem of “love addiction”, in which people face exactly the same, as you are feeling, and this happened due to some negligence, that you had to face at some point of life, but it showed down, when I guess you stepped in adolescent period. Because of low, self-love you couldn’t figure out your own identity issues, may be that resulted into choosing a wrong stream of education and carrier.
Right now, you idealise about having a “happy life”, which has in fact no definite definition, but when you see people around you, being thoughtless, you assume, they are happy.
You have a philosophical bent of mind, and you cannot be just happy without any reason, you have to find yourself correct and acceptable somewhere, only then you can feel happiness like a streak of light.
It is true, friends, that we see in films aren’t necessarily existing in this world, as films are showing that which would have been nice, if they had been true.
Here, in today’s world, “friend” is synonymous to “time pass” and “useful connection”. So leave those dreams aside.
The only way to undergo a makeover, is talking to your wife, leaving accusations aside for a while. Try to explain your problems, and see if she understands, again it is not a 2 hrs film, so she will take time to digest and process it.
In anyway, you have to be patient, till death itself comes to you, till then why don’t you explore a bit, where you are right, and where are you going wrong?

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