Question by ghost: How do you cope with your last grand parent dying, when you’ve only known your mothers side of your family?
My grandpa died when I was 20. I talked to him for two hours on the phone the day he died. He was my best friend, and my youngest aunt said his last words were “get Jason he can help”. I’ve never met my father, and I hear he is a piece of work. I called my grandmother on that side of the family and she told me she is an 80 year old blind woman and wanted to be left alone.
I do love my grandmother on my mom’s side, and my real mom died 5 years ago. I was adopted by my oldest aunt. So I know a lot about loss. I’m just wondering how people feel about losing most of their family before they are even 32? I turn 32 next week.
I think of historical figures like George Washington who was given an estate at the young age of 17 because both his father and uncle died in their 40’s. I’m sure he was a strong person that was able to lead not only his family, but troops, and eventually go against the greatest empire.
What are your thoughts on loss? I think the most inspirational book I read on this topic was ‘Why Bad Things Happen to Good People’ by Harold S. Kushner. But sometimes I feel little solace anyway. I wrote my grandma a letter last week that she read. My meth addicted uncle won’t let me visit her because he calls the cops since I turned him in for abusing her. And she supported him because that is her way when the department of aging came to check on her.
How do you deal with loss?
Best answer:
Answer by Lindsey A
im so sorry to hear this, i have also lost both of my grandparents from my mothers side-the sane side, my remaining relatives are crack pots and psychos that i do not wish to associate with. I am 23 and am sad that my family is left to what it is. I deal with loss one day at a time i guess, i miss them all the time, i miss seeing my grandmother laugh and play with my daughter, i miss our sunday dinners, i miss listening to my grandfather go on and on about world events, but at some point i think we need to realize how lucky we were to have those times and that some never get to experience the love of a grandparent at all. i wish you the best in your healing.
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