Can I Cut My Mother Off Completely?

Published May 16, 2010

My question is: Can I stop my maternal mother from seeing my children? I live in Kahului, Hawaii

Here is some background information…

I have 2 children; 1 boy who will be 9; 1 girl who just turned 1.

My maternal mother has a history of drug (on & off, crystal meth) and alcohol (frequent) abuse since I was 13 years old actually. I have let my son spend time with her including sleep overs when she is sober and not using alcohol and drugs, but lately she has become more dependant on her drug use… she had recently been evicted from her last residence and came to live with me. My rules were clear no drinking and drugging at my residence, after 1 week there were signs of drug use (sitting in my living room picking at here legs for no apparent reason, no appetite for a day or two, staying up for whole day, very unusual behavior and out of ordinary things). In the past when my son has been allowed to stay with her for a weekend I would get calls from family members that she was driving around highly intoxicated with my son in the car. My son comes home and tells me that my mother shoplifts from stores while he is with her ( he tells in detail how she steals). A lot of other bad habits that a child should not have to know. It seems that when I tell my son “no” he goes to grandmas and gets what I do not allow ( My son wanted a B.B gun…I said no he was only 7 years old, my mother goes and buys him one, no one was watching him shoot the gun and he almost shot the neighbors child one day. There have been many physical fights between my mother and her boyfriend in front of my child. My daughter has not been around mt mother as much to her bad influence…My mother also yells and treats her boyfriends daughter (10 years old) very negatively also calling her stupid and she so dumb, teases her about her eyeglasses……I have also heard from other family members that when I am not around she will yell and cuss at my son as well……there have been many more events that have made me not want my children around her but the last straw was when she had a physical fight with her boyfriend and it had to do with drugs ( he woke up at 1:00 a.m and found her smoking ice as my son and his daughter were sleeping in the house). I told her from here on I do not want her around my children or my residence at all. I told her pretty much “Since she wants to do drugs, stay away from my family”.

She has recently told a family member that she is going to take me to court… Can I completely cut her out of mine and my children’s lives for good?

Can I Cut My Mother Off Completely?

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