Anyone With Experience Please Help. How Do I Handle This?
Question by lolpox: Anyone with experience please help. How do I handle this?
(I apologize in advance for the long post)
My roomate is not just someone I live with, he and I have grown up together, hung out since grade school, and he is my fraternity brother, so this situation has been weighing on me for awhile. I believe he began having a problem with oxycontin at the start of this semester, though I am not sure because he has always been a naturally private guy and good at hiding when he is high. We had always experimented with various drugs together, so I thought nothing of it when I’d see him pick up the occasional pill.
Then I started to notice his pupils were constantly pinned (for those who do not know, very small pupils are a giveaway of opiate use), he’d leave at odd hours and I’d hear him blowing lines in his room. I had confronted him about this and he assured me it was “no big deal”. My other friend and I had noticed a big change in his behavior, and he was really messing up in school, and decided we needed to tell his parents (we’re in college so he is very financially dependent on them). After a couple of days of withdrawal it seemed like I had my old friend back and it felt great.
A week later (last night) his pupils were pinned again and I thought I heard him blowing lines but I wasn’t sure. I called his mom and today she drug tested him and caught him. Tonight I definitely heard him snorting lines and I got absolutely infuriated. I just don’t know what to do.
I obviously have to tell his mom again (though I hate having to “spy” on my friend), but that apparently didn’t leave a strong impression because less than 8 hours after he got back from the drug test he bought more. I’m tired of watching my good friend throw his life, money and self respect away.
I initially was supportive of him. He called me to apologize for the way he acted and I told him I was there for him. How do I respond now? Do I leave it all to the parents? Do I give him some tough love? Do I always watch him and know where he’s going?
Any help is greatly appreciated. Also, have some effing respect, no answers telling me “drugs are bad”, “he’s an idiot for getting addicted”, or “he had it coming”,
Best answer:
Answer by Steven
it’s better to let him do whatever he wants and stay out of it. the best thing to do is Never try to fix another ones problem. this can lead to 10 other questions you ask. think about it.
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