Q&A: Why Is My Boyfriend So Insensitive?

Question by Bella. <3: Why is my boyfriend so insensitive?
My boyfriend is wonderful and I love him to pieces, but at times he can be really insensitive.

Basically, I had to move out of my home at the end of the summer because my father is an alcoholic. For about three months, my brothers and I put up with verbal, emotional and even sporadic physical abuse. My father was out of control, and I was forced to move out into my mother’s house.

Obviously, the whole thing was a bit of an ordeal and I now dislike too much mention of alcohol – my boyfriend is well aware of this. However, he keeps saying how much he “loves alcohol” and it helps him “relax” and even how it seems to “solve his problems” and “motivate him to work”. I find this very upsetting, and I see visions of my boyfriend becoming an alcoholic, too, but he insists (and I do believe him, he is nothing like an alcoholic) that he won’t become addicted. When I ask him to stop discussing alcohol, he calls me over dramatic etc.

How can I get him to understand that it’s actually quite distressing for me – and why is he doing it in the first place?

Best answer:

Answer by Rain55
Clearly even though he knows about your experience, he doesn’t respect your feelings about it. Calling you over-dramatic and such indicates lack of respect and yes he is insensitive.

It’s best to find someone else who would treat you better. You can’t force him to change.

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