Need Motherly Advice From a Spiritual Viewpoint Pls?

Question by PiscesPassion: Need motherly advice from a spiritual viewpoint pls?
I’m posting my question in this particular category, in hopes to get some suggestive advice coming from people with a spiritual viewpoint.

My adult son joined my new husband and I in a new rental this month. I’ve had several incidents with my son already, resulting in him lashing out at me. I’m realizing he has an addiction problem, and being an addict in recovery myself, I feel his pain. However, my recovery has undoubtedly caused me to set “rules”… for myself. I say “for myself” because I cannot impose them on others, so I set them for myself and just make sure I let no-one overstep my boundaries.

Anyhow, there are too many details to mention here to describe how the incidents grew into hostility toward me. However, I can say that they were petty, and quite frankly I was in the right. But my son being “fogged” by his addiction frustrations cannot and will not see the wrong on his behalf.

Nonetheless, all incidents always end up in such hostile behavior, with hate words toward me, cursing, and even name calling. Needless to say, I am one unhappy mother right now, with one foot in the door of depression.

I don’t know what to do to “help” my son, because I do know that he has to want help and/or want to help himself first. He has to “admit” and “accept” his addiction, and right now he is far from it. But I know enough about addiction first-hand, and I’ve been around addicts long enough, as well as around non-addicts long enough, to easily conclude that… it is “not” because of the new husband (they get along just great, as do my other adult children)… and it is “not” my son’s normal behavior (because one knows their children that well)… and that there is no reasoning with him at this particular stage, until he hits rock bottom.

I also know that my son has issues, deep issues, concerning my past. As a child usually does with an addict or ex-addict parent, he will bring up my past every now & then, but not always, altho I know it “must” have left a scar. I also know that his father (my ex-husband) has shown no interest in him for several years now (a great change from a father who used to fight over custodial rights in the past), and I know this has to hurt as well.

My question is posted because at this point, from all the lashing my son has done at me, and all the name-calling and cursing, I’ve asked him to move out… again. But this time I meant it… again. I say “again” because, as a mother, it always hurts me and somehow I let my feelings for him get the best of me. Also, I know what it feels like to be caught up in that downward spiral, with all the feelings of “nobody loves me” and “nobody cares” and “I have nobody left in my life”, as well as the frustrations of feeling doomed, and feeling lost. And as a mother, naturally I’m the last one who wants to “not” be there for him, you know??

I’ve done all I can… all I can do on my end… and all I can do as a mother. But now I want some spiritual based advice, as to should I continue to forgive him and let him stay? Or should I say enough is enough to the disrespectful way he is treating me, and serve him an eviction notice? (It just seems so cruel, and MUCH easier said than done to go to that extreme, but it would be the only way to remove him from the home.)

Thanks for reading my dilemma… and I appreciate all comments and suggestions.

Best answer:

Answer by WhyRejectJesusChrist
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

John 19:26 When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved, he saith unto his mother, Woman, behold thy son!

John 19:27 Then saith he to the disciple, Behold thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home.

Ephesians 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

1 Timothy 1:9 Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers,

Proverbs 5:23 He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

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