Disfunctional Teenage Lesbian Relationship Seeks Advice?
Question by askingjuliet: Disfunctional teenage lesbian relationship seeks advice?
I am bisexual. I just came out at the beginning of this year. I left a male
fiancee of two years for the first girl I ever liked/dated/kissed. She is
the only person I’ve ever been in love with. We’ve broken up four or maybe five times now though… we both claim to love eachother so much but we can’t ever seem to be together. I broke up with her for the first time a few weeks ago. I had just lost my job and my parents were trying to kick me out and I was living with a friend or in my car for a while… and I just couldn’t handle it. And this time, like all the times in the past when she has dumped me, one of us will say something and wel’ll start talking again… she calls it “keeping us a possibility”. She’ll say shes been drinking non stop since we broke up, I’ll tell her I miss her, she’ll say we can’t be together because she fucks everything up and she’s scared because of how close we are and all this ultimately leaving me with something to the tune of
Her(10:40:44 PM): why do we love each other so much?
Me (10:41:22 PM): i wish i knew.
Her(10:41:39 PM): then why cant we stand each other long enough to be together?
Me (10:42:04 PM): if i knew i’d fix it.
Her (10:43:57 PM): i hate this.
And she’ll get off saying I love you before she goes and then the next day
it’s like we’re exes or strangers again. We do this ALL THE TIME though…
we’ve been on and off since… hell… 5 or 6 months ago? I love her so
much but it’s pure torment when we aren’t together and then when we are
together she hardly makes the effort to call once every three days. I don’t
think I can love anyone else, I have tried.
She’ll talk about stuff like “our wedding” and kidnapping a kid for us to
raise together… and how she wants it to be US even if it means getting
married with a ring pop in vegas… but then the next day, it’s like…
nevermind. Forget everything I said.
I tell her not to plan much.. because I’m 18 and she’s 16 and she’s bi and
it would not take much at all for her to change her mind. Don’t get my
hopes up. She’s not ready to grow up like that… but I deeply believe in
the saying… if you love someone let them go, if they return they were
always yours, if they don’t they never were.. and she keeps coming back..
but I wonder sometimes if it’s for the ego boost she gets when i pour out my heart for her…
there is a possiblility that she could be very actively cheating on me and she does drugs… mainly weed and extasy… and she drinks a lot… she recently decided to go to rehab… but the people she hangs out with do that stuff all the time… i love her… but idk
IDK.
What do you all think??
and all you close minded people can go jump off a cliff. I don’t wanna hear it.
Best answer:
Answer by My S
hunnny.
im bisexual as well.
firt time relationships with girls-have to be the worst.
your a new bisexual and havent had much practice with women.
yu both need a break.
remain close friends-but see other people.
if in a little while, you both still have feelings forr each other, go for it!
GOOD LUKK:]
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