I Need Your Advice on Life, ANYONE?
Question by EMarieB: I need your advice on life, ANYONE?
ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE
I really need help with my life and everyone I talk to has different answers, so I thought I would ask anyone on what they think.
I am a 19 year old female who has always been “the good kid” in school and at home. I always did what my parents said to do, got all As in school, never drank or did drugs, that sort of thing. My parents are very well off and I am very well off with everything I have (they are paying for my schooling and bought me a car, smart phone, we have a big house, etc.) I have never liked this much, of course it’s awesome to have nice things, but it has made my family very snooty and they think they are better then everyone else. Money can’t buy happiness. They have big plans for me I don’t like either. However, I am not a spoiled brat because of these things, and I see those qualities in my family and it makes me and my parents fight a lot. I just got done with my first semester of college, but I am just taking gen eds next semester (not majoring in anything) because I have no idea what I want to do. I have never had a serious “I want to be _____ when I grow up!” moment when I was a kid, so I don’t know what to study but my parents are making me be in college. All I do know is one thing: I have always wanted to be a mother. When I was little and growing up, I always wanted a child of my own. I love taking care of things and people, but I mostly love little children and dream of a family. I have been dating my best friend who I fell in love with so hard my senior year of high school it scared some people (other longer story, but lets just say I can see myself with this man for the rest of my life), and he has a daughter of his own with an ex-fiance. It was hard, because at first my parents were sketchy of letting us be together because of this child, but we’re very perfect together, so it was hard to say no. When I fell in love with him, I didn’t know he had a daughter because he was scared to tell me, so I am not dating him just for my love of children, but I love being a mother figure to her. She makes me so happy and makes me wish for a family of my own because of this even more. I know, being too smart for my own good, I am still very young myself. I am only 19 years old and I am very very lucky to have parents willing to provide for me so much…but all I want is to be a “stupid teenager” for once and follow my dream. I would be happy with an OK job in a mall, or as a secretary, or a day care worker if I were to just move out and be my own person. My parents have high expectations and are very strict with everything. They run my life and want me to follow their plan to go to college and be a successful independent women. They have always never let me be who I truly am, and that is someone not like them. I know it sounds very very stupid and it could lead to something horrible even…but all I want is to save up more money, get married to my boyfriend, move out somewhere and start a family. I want to get away from my (long story short) horrible family life here at home, be my own person and not who my parents want me to be, and be happy. My parents and me don’t have a good relationship and it hurts. I’m a good kid, but we don’t get along because I don’t like their way of life. I want to escape their hands and the horrible home life (my mom is always yelling, my parents don’t even sleep in the same room, emotional abuse, etc). I know if I do this and follow my dream, they may be pissed and not want to talk to me, but I would risk it. I would try and repair that relationship. I’m not happy in college, wasting my time with studying nothing. I want to follow my dream. Some might call it foolish and stupid, but it’s my dream.
Should I follow my parents plan for me and get myself a degree in something random I don’t like?
Should I follow my dream and build my own way of life where I’m happy?
I may be young, but I am able.
Please help me with advice?
Any questions, feel free to ask.
Again, please only serious answers.
Thank you for your time.
Best answer:
Answer by mg
My suggestion is to definitely follow your dreams. You need to be happy! And your parents will support you if you fail, and you’ll have learned a great lesson through trying. You should just get a degree in general studies so you can have a diploma and then go back and major in something when you know for sure,
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