When to End a Relationship – 5 Signs

When To End A Relationship – 5 Signs

A troubled relationship can be very painful. There are numerous signs that indicate it is probably time to end things. However, you may also find that it is worth giving things another try.

Here are 5 signs that it is time to end your relationship.

Sign #1: Your words to each other lack a tone of basic respect: In Malcolm Gladwell’s bestselling book, “Blink,” the author describes how certain marriage counselors can watch a videotape of any given couple talking and predict almost instantly and with great accuracy whether the relationship will last. The key is in the level of respect the couple expresses to each other via their words. If you find you or your partner constantly talking in a way that suggests contempt or annoyance in almost every utterance, your relationship may be doomed.

Sign #2: Your partner has cheated repeatedly: How you handle finding out about your partner’s infidelity is a very personal matter, especially if it has happened one time. If your partner has demonstrated a history of multiple infidelities or if your partner does not seem to sympathize with your resulting pain, it is probably time to call it quits.

Sign #3: Your partner is abusive: If your partner is physically or mentally abusive, you should almost certainly remove yourself from the relationship. By the way, even physical abuse can come from either sex. I have personally had big, strong male friends who were on the receiving ends of physically abusive relationships from petit women. Man or woman, if your partner is abusive, get immediate help or get out now.

Sign #4: Substance abuse: If your partner has a debilitating drug or alcohol problem but you find yourself somehow tethered to the relationship, you may be in a very unhealthy situation. It is not necessarily the best thing to leave your partner in this circumstance. But, if your partner shows no signs of recovering and you find yourself unable to get him or her help, it may be time to end things. People who allow their spouse or family member to continue with a substance abuse problem untreated are in what psychologists call a co-dependent relationship. Do not let this happen to you: get help now

Sign #5: Lack of respect for their values: Some people who are good, attractive and nice people in some situations might turn into real devils in others. If your partner is involved with illegal or immoral activities – or if maybe they are just plain mean to certain people they meet – ask them to change or get help. If they show no interest in recognizing their problems, it is wise to dissociate yourself from them: it is impossible to really love someone whom you do not respect.

If your love is experiencing a bumpy road and exhibits any of the above-mentioned signs, you should probably end the relationship. Otherwise, you just may be able to pull through. If you think your relationship is worth saving, make a commitment to yourself do whatever you can to make it work. If you try and fail, at least you will know you tried.