What if a Woman Just Doesn’t Want to Be a Mother?
Question by cruzgirlz3: What if a woman just doesn’t want to be a mother?
There are two groups constantly discussed:
-those who are drug addicts, abusive and so on
-those who truly want to be mothers but who are limited by circumstances
But what about a third group? There are, in fact, mothers who give up their babies because they don’t want to be mothers. They aren’t poor, they aren’t disadvantaged and they aren’t coerced. You don’t hear from these mothers on blogs, and support groups, and sites like this because they tend to move on with their lives (please don’t simplify this by saying they are in denial). As hard as it is to believe, some don’t feel this Mother-child bond.
Isn’t there an implied judgement of these mothers by saying that we need to have every single baby (except for addiction) stay with their mother? What of those who just don’t want to parent…isn’t it better they are given to those who do?
I’m particularly interested in how “family preservationists” view this.
This is not hypothetical…and not every person believes in abortion. You can’t avoid an issue by saying it doesn’t exist. I’ve seen it many times.
Phil, plz see your email for “Facts”
Phil, I NEVER said they didn’t care about their child..I said they didn’t want to be mothers. People do have VERY strong objections to abortion based on their religious or cultural beliefs
I’ve worked with 100’s of pregnant women and new moms in my profession. How many have you worked with Phil?
Phil, I never ever said you didn’t have the right to speak. I asked if you had ever been pregnant? If not, than how can you pretend to know what a woman would or would not feel. You are just guessing. However, many of the women who posted have been pregnant and have felt this detachment. So, why are you doubting them? I’m just crushed that you won’t be answering my posts. you have great answers.
You are making this an issue about what a mother feels while pregnant when the issue is Women who do not want to be mothers. Ok, you win on that Mothers Feel while pregnant. I was wrong to not make that clear. They feel strong feelings. That wasn’t the point. The point was they decided not to be mothers and they go on with their lives (albeit with great emotion)
Best answer:
Answer by amosunknown
As the years progress and society and culture continue to unravel and feed and grow self gratification and selfishness, its more and more common that woman make babies they just dont want to mother.
I think its an excellent thing to have them adopted out, especially in our nation where theres so very man adoptive parents waiting for children who otherwise wouldnt be available.
Forcing a child to stay with a potentially neglectful or possibly abusive mother, or at least an emotionaly abuse/neglectful one, is wrong. Every child should be loved and cherished.
They shouldnt be made in the first place without that mindset on the part of the parents, but for thos circumstances where it does happen, there are always wonderful families waiting to adopt.
What do you think? Answer below!