Warning Signs of an Abuser?

Question by : Warning signs of an abuser?
It seems there are alot of control freaks and abusers in this world
despite the facts that there is alot more help and information out
there to let people know what abuse is and about abusive people.
How can a man or woman know early on if they are dating or
interested in someone who could abuse them or be a potential
abuser? People need to get this information down and store it
some place,cause too many people end up abused,even very
smart,loving & good people,so not all victims were use to such
treatment,and not all of them ask for it. Most do not!
Would someone be so kind as to give
as many warning signs as possible of
a potential abuser or someone who
might be a controller & an abuser?
I would personally like to be sure about
who I date,& I am sure many people out
there feel the same. If there is good
information you have,please share it,ok?
I agree,there is alot of information out
there,but I also believe that people will
listen to those with experience faster’sometimes. I know a few friends
that really need to stay strong right now,
and one just left an abuser. I hope they
will take advise from normal people who
have experience & survived it.
Thanks for all your help,& if anyone else
out there can help add to this ,please do
okay?

Best answer:

Answer by CleverGirl
There’s a few. If a guy gets insanely jealous over a common situation (like a guy checked you out at the store but you didn’t notice) and blames you, that’s trouble. Then there’s just the little things he’ll say. It really starts off as emotional abuse first. Little comments about weight or the way you look. Basically just trying to tear down your self esteem. If he wants to change things about you that you did before you met him is another. It’s really hard to tell this right away. Most of these things come out later when you’re already with the person and invested in them which makes it harder to see what it really is.

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