My Step Daughter Is Only 14 and Told Me All the Bad Things She’s Done. Should I Tell Her Father?

Question by asdfjkl;: My step daughter is only 14 and told me all the bad things she’s done. Should I tell her father?
My step daughter is only 14 and told me she’s already had sex with more than one man (older men) and that she sometimes drinks and smokes weed. I’m only 10 years older than her and she sees me as a good friend and listens to me (most of the time) so I tried to steer her in the right direction without scolding her but I’m concerned she’s going to end up in trouble if I didn’t get through to her. She’s going through some rough times right now with her mother. Her mother and father don’t talk so he doesn’t know what’s going on but she also told me about her mothers recent alcohol addiction, she physically abuses her daughters, and is dating a man who berates her children. Should I tell her father or should I discreetly get her into counseling. I’m afraid if I tell him he’ll yell at her, embarrass her, and make things worse and also that she may not trust me anymore.
to clear up any confusion, I am married to her father and I am her step mother.
live in the now- that’s terrible advice. Yell at her? Tell her I think she’s a liar? If that’s how I handled things I wouldn’t even know what I know now and she’d have 0% chance of getting help because no one would know what she was going through or doing! Just because i’m her step mom doesn’t mean I have to be mean to her. I have way more pull with her as the friendly step mom than the screaming b*tch she doesn’t want to be around. Also, how could she have nothing to gain from counseling? It’s a safe environment where she can work out some of the emotional problems that are actually causing the bad behaviors…

Best answer:

Answer by perko23
If you do she will resent you.
Encourage her to talk to her father.

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