Inlaws, Marijuana, and My Child?
Question by anonymous: Inlaws, Marijuana, and my Child?
Let me start off saying I am not holier-than thou and do not judge people who smoke marijuana. I have smoked it before the age of 20 and even once with my inlaws before they were my inlaws.
But then I (and my husband) grew up. We decided to be healthy and we don’t drink or smoke. We had a son.
Our in-laws live across the country. They smoke weed every day. We told them we can’t leave our son alone with them ever if they are going to be smoking pot.
Since then, my FIL paid a doctor to write him a script for medical marijuana. So it’s legal. But my husband says his father is different on marijuana. Mean.
They are considering moving here. Our relationship with them is already pretty fragile but I feel will go all to pieces if they move here and I won’t let them be alone with my kids.
On one hand, it actually makes me feel better that he has a script bc then it’s not like they would get arrested in front of my kids or something. On the other hand, my MIL had told FIL not to tell us about the prescription bc she knew we were against drugs, especially around our kids. If she wanted to hide that, what else could they be hiding?
My husband grew up in a moderately abusive home and they were on meth then. He lived with other relatives at different times. Now they have gotten everything together and only smoke pot. I just feel like I can’t trust them, and we know for sure the marijuana is not going to stop.
What would you do? What would you say to them? I want to tell them not to even bother moving here. But I guess it wouldn’t be so bad if they showed up at baseball games or came to cook outs. But I don’t want them around all the time and I don’t want them taking my child anywhere.
These people smoke every day
My thing is I don’t want them high around my children, driving them places, etc.
Best answer:
Answer by Jaclyn…#1 due 02/01/09
Well first off be glad that they are not on meth. Honestly my mother in law smokes also, but she would never do it in front of her grandchildren at the age where they knew what she was doing. She is a great person. Actually she is a teacher in the high school I graduated from. I would just calm down and see how they act while they are around the family. Tell them that you don’t care what they do, but can they please not smoke in front of your children because you don’t want them to get the wrong idea about Marijuana. If they cannot accept that then maybe the best thing you can do is keep the children away. I think they should have enough respect to at least do it when the kids are not around! good luck!
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