I Need Some Honest Opinions on a Family Issue & Advice on Moving Forward!?

Question by laurimarie128: I need some honest opinions on a family issue & advice on moving forward!?
My father died at 57 from complications of alcoholism. I have been married 27 years & have 4 kids. My oldest was dx with alcohol addiction at 16. He was arrested 3 times for fighting and ended up in prison for 2 years @ age of 17 4 felony battery! From the day I learned my son was drinking/doing drugs, our family got therepy. Indiv, and family sessions. With love & support from God, my mom, and dear friends, we came thru that painful time! Son is 25, marriend and doing well. We have not had alcohol in our home for 13 years. My husbands family can’t have a gathering without it! Now that 3 of my kids are over 21, a brother in law constantly encourages them 2 drink shots etc at family events (where young kids are wittness to this b-i-l’s very DRUNK behavior). I’ve tried to explain our feelings of alcohol being inapprop @ bdays, 1st comm etc. And tried to explain our being hurt when they encourage kids 2 drink. Now, they r not talking to me. They say I AM Rediculous! Am I? Or, are they?

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Answer by febe102
You obviously have a wacky family who doesn’t respect you and your family and for everything you all have been through. I would dis-own them. As far as your kids who are over 21, they have to make their own choices. I come from a line of alcoholics too and have a son who is an alcoholic. He is back in prison now cause he just won’t listen and obey the laws. My marriage also ended because of alcohol issues so I understand the pressure his family puts on you. Just make an example and don’t go to the events where there will be alcohol. You are not ridiculous but you are being realistic. It sounds like all of his side of the family have alcohol issues and I would prefer not to be around those kinds of people.

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