I Need Some Advice…. About a Non Exisiting Baby Daddy.?
Question by Angela: I need some advice…. about a non exisiting baby daddy.?
Here is the low down (short version)
Me n my sons father split up when our son was only 10 months old. Due to abuse, drug user, alcholic, never could hold down a job, mutch, and just all around ignorant man… He was verbally abusive to the both of us… so i got out while i could… I have many of pictures of of my ex so im putting them to the side so if he ever ask me what his father looks like ill have pics foor him… BUT his father has never contacted him acts as if he dont even have a son have not heard from him since the day we split up with was 2 years ago now…Is it ignorant of me not to want to put pictures of him and his father in my photo album of his wonderful life??? I mean i would never throw them away i just really dont want them in the photo album of his life… Photo albums are of ones who love u and his father is definatly not in that category….Is it selfish of me to think that i should make my own album for pics of him and his father? Which is only like 10 pics cuz his dad never wanted anythign to do with him….
ALSO NEXT QUESTIOn…
How can i get my point across (when my son ask me ) that his father is not mature enough to be a father. ( dad is 30 and mom is 28) I mean i dont want to sugar coat to my kid and make him think his father is this great man that loves him and its just that he cant come see him right now hes busy i dont want to sugar coat nothing I WILL NOT LIE TO MY SOn….. ID like to say ur dad is a low life peace of sheeeat…. that thinks of nothing but himself…? But i never would … None the lesss his father just got sentenced to 30 years in prison for home invasion and a repeat offender. i knwo what a great guy but i never seen this side of him tell i got prego…
Help me here what should i do can you answer both questions and give me any help u have with this situation…..
Best answer:
Answer by drummer_girl70
I would leave the pictures out as well. Your right, photo albums celibrate special times, not dead beats.
And when your son asks, tell him the truth. Tell him his dad was a dead beat and you are glad that he isnt around cause your son deserves so much better.
Your son will be grateful for what you have done anf given him, he doesnt need a dead beat father around to be a bad influence.
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