How Do I Get Over My Past and the Abuse I Did to Myself?
Question by unhuman: How do i get over my past and the abuse i did to myself?
ok whatever i used to do lots of pot and then i did meth heavy for like 6 months, i messed up my high school life totally, i did poor very poor in my classes. i now have depression, and anxiety and i know i always blame the drugs and me, i feel like crap, even tho iq uit drugs in 2005. i feel doomed to failture
Best answer:
Answer by kim14electra
sometimes, We spend too much time thinking about a horrible deed we’ve committed, even though we no can no longer change it.
Accept that it happened. It’s not the easiest thing to do, but it will help you get on your way. The past is a part of your life now, but it is not the most important part. Accept the fact that it can no longer be changed in anyway.
Change your cognition to not feel as bad about what happened, and decrease anxiety that triggers going back to the past; for example, if you were embarrassed, tell yourself don’t worry, everyone gets embarrassed; various relaxation methods will decrease anxiety which can trigger bad memories
Live in the present. This one is kind of hard, as well, since the present is easy to take for granted. Know that by constantly using your present time wisely, you are constantly making a better past for yourself.
Learn from it. Something good always comes out of anything, even if it is a very bad experience. Find the lesson involved and try not to make the same mistake twice. Lousy-Lesson Example 1: “If I didn’t get busted shoplifting, I would’ve moved on to armed robbery and get shot by cops.”(Note: this did happen to me)
Forgive. Yourself or the ones that have hurt you. Cut some slack to others and yourself. Nobody asks to be given a bad memory. People are not perfect. Everyone is prone to make mistakes. That’s how people are. And the only way to really move on from a bad experience is to forgive the people involved.
If all of the above don’t help, then maybe try some journaling in a diary, or journal. But be specific about what’s bothering you.
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