How Do I Deal With My “clean” Drug Addicting Mother and Life Situation?
Question by Quarterback: How do I deal with my “clean” drug addicting mother and life situation?
OK here it goes im 17 im doing ok i play three sports and im the high school quarterback outside of my home life everything is good but when i get home it goes to hell. I live at my grandparents house with my 45 year old mom and my 26 year old brother. It seems like im the only person who wants to do anything with their life. My mom “was” addicted to pain killers i believe Oxycontin and she did meth for a couple years which now i see tore her up . She hasn’t worked in 8 years she has been living off everyone since any money she had went to drugs she has been clean for about 2 years. but now she smokes alot of pot and i mean like 5 bowls a day and doesn’t do anything to help herself get back in to the world. If it wasn’t for my grandparents having money i believe i would have a worse life. I have to live with my mom because of school but my dad is a great guy and i only see him on the weekends. It seems my main point is to vent but i want to know what i can say or do to kick my mom in to shape so she has a chance at a quality life before i leave to college next year. What is sad is we do not see eye to eye i come home and yell at her and make her feel bad im not proud about that but now that i see things i cant stand it at all the stress and everything is taking a toll on me its getting very tough. Please help or share your story and let me know things will get better.
P.S. Um well she has been to jail mutliple times for im sure possession, under the influence, and im sure others she has had to do programs to help but i honest feel it didnt get her anywhere she is messed up the pot and the lazyness really gets me and i want to be able to have a home social life but my mother prevents me because my friends dont need to know this stuff so help me please i have no choice but to deal with it for another year im a smart kid and will have lots of opportunities once i graduate but damn its very frustrating i want a great senior year but she is in the back of my mind
P.S. My brother is attempting to turn his life around he has had a rough life he is semi illiterate but a very nice person he is heading to arizona to go to a trade school and i have hope for him i think its great for him so for the whole dead beat bro he isnt but for my mother its a different story Thanks for some of the help
Best answer:
Answer by Rubber Sheets
I’m a recovering alcoholic and drug addict and I know the pain that addiction puts loved ones through from my own experience. There is honestly nothing that you can do for her except for being there if she does decide to get help. Even though she is clean, I would strongly recommend that you go to Alanon. This is a support group for people like you, who have addicts in their lives. It will help you to talk about it and listen to other peoples’ stories who are going through the same thing.
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