Question by Majesty: Drugs? Alcohol? Both?
I suspect that someone I know may be doing drugs and could possibly be heading toward alcoholism. This is what I’m seeing: We’ll be at a restaurant, talking and having dinner and she’ll go to the bathroom. When she comes back, she’s a ball of energy and start acting weird. She makes it a point to tell me that drugs aren’t her thing but I feel like her specifically saying it means the opposite. She goes out to bars and clubs almost every night and drinks heavily. She’s blacked out before and has put herself in dangerous situations like taking the train home alone and drunk and having sex with guys she doesn’t know. She was also fired from her last job but wouldn’t tell me why. She lies to me so much that I can’t trust her. I’ve talked to her about her drinking and she gets mad. I guess I’m curious if these are the signs of substance abuse as I’ve never delt with this before. Just tired of her telling me I’m psycho for saying anything about anything in her life.
Our friendship is not really a friendship anymore since I’ve spoken to her about her lies and behavior. She ignores me, talks behind my back, and tells people I’m the one that ruined our friendship. Her parents are alcoholics, she says she was assaulted when she was a teenager, she’s had some female problems…but she lies so much that I honestly don’t know what to believe. One minute she says something and the next minute she claims she never said it. She hangs around with heavy drinkers and people who use drugs.
Best answer:
Answer by Luleys mum
Do you have any mutual friends or are you close enough to her family to speak to them about how you are feeling. Do you know of anything that has happened in her life to have brought on this change in her. Alcoholism and drug addiction are usually brought on by something if she is doing these things alone, or is it that she has other friends that are into this scene, like getting in with the wrong crowd. While it is hard for you to watch you can only offer support and if she declines this help and professional help you cant force this upon her, and will have to wait for her to admit she has a problem. At least she has a friend that cares this much about her. Good Luck
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